Sunday, March 2, 2014

Parents & Technology.

It is generally assumed that kids are too busy with their hand-phones and iPads to communicate with their parents. In movies and TV shows, we always see young children and snobby teens ignoring their parents while tapping away on their gadgets. Kids who constantly use their phones are seen as rude and spoiled. While I do agree with the fact that our generation relies highly on technology to pass our time, there is another similar situation which isn't given nearly as much attention. I encountered something weird the other day which made me want to write this post.

A mother and her daughter were sitting at the table beside me in a restaurant. The little girl looked to be around 6 years old. She was talking very enthusiastically but the mother was just blatantly ignoring her while using her Blackberry. She barely said five words to the girl throughout the whole meal. It was painful to watch. Since then I've been noticing this situation more, I guess it happens a lot but I never thought about it.

I think it's really sad that kids these days have to compete with technology for their parents' attention.

I'm not ignoring the fact the parents may actually be working through their phones, answering emails etc. But the point is that at least when sitting in a restaurant with your child, you should put it away, or at least tell them to wait a second instead of letting them blabber on pointlessly. If a child grows up in an environment where he/she feel like they're not being heard, they'll grow up feeling like their thoughts are not important. And this in turn will lessen their self-esteem.

I'm not a parent so I can't empathise with the situation, all I can do is comment on what I feel is wrong. Technology can be very distracting and it IS an essential part of our lives, but taking time out to listen to your kids is just as important.

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Would love to hear your views on this :)

20 comments:

  1. Personally I don't think a parent should ever do that. Working on your phone is one thing but NO ONE is that busy. Doing that to her child only teaches that child that it's okay to do it to others when they get older and eventually that child may stop talking to her mother at all, a problem that will grow even worse when she becomes a teenager. Sure the child's talking may seem pointless to the adult but if you've ever given your full attention to a child and seen how they excitedly tell you about something important to them it makes it all worth it. Children deserve time and attention from their parents no matter what.

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  2. if your example is representative of mass audience then it certainly is an alarming situation as it can have detrimental effects on parents-children relationship in future

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  3. Technology has made us accessible 24x7.

    It has also made us work at par with machines. Parents have it hard these days. they wanna provide the best to their kids, but the workplace encroaches on our personal lives.

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  4. God I love you for this post. You know what? The situation is pretty opposite at my place. I don't have a thing for technology like I am not one of those teenagers who are hopelessly addicted to their gadgets. I don't remember using my cell in a month. But my mom is the exact opposite. She keeps everything pretty updated and she even plays angry birds, flappy bird, temple run and all that stuff. However, I don't feel neglected because she gives me a lot of time and listens to me so its okay because parents need a break too. But well the one you told us in the post is painful because kids so small shouldn't be neglected. Actually no one should be neglected but but particularly kids should be paid attention to so that they grow up as confident human beings. Whether its technology, or professional commitments, parents must take time out to communicate with the kids. Otherwise there is no point of having kids if you have neglect them. Lots of love. :)

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  5. I'm really happy that someone finally decided to write about the other side of the situation, parents. Although parents sometimes need to stay connected to technology for work purposes, it's important for them to give their kids the proper love and attention. I guess it's important for both kids and parents to have exposure to technology, but of course, while using it responsibly.

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  6. I agree with you. With all the technology surrounding us, it's often too easy to get distracted by it and end up not paying attention to actual people instead.

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  7. HERE HERE!!! I agree with you, hands down. To be fair, I don't think our family is too bad with technology. I feel like we just suck at communicating in general. I'm not that obsessed with my phone, my little sisters don't have a lot of technology to be obsessed with, and my mother doesn't really like her phone... but we're not all that cuddly close either. I think it's just how we are in general.

    I haven't actually witnessed the situation that you presented myself (it only brings back memories of Kelly Clarkson's 'Because of You' video), but if what you say is true, I don't think there's anything I can really disagree with. C'est sad :/

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  8. Hats off to you for writing about the other side of the coin. Always children get blamed for being glued to their phones. Maybe the lady was googling "How to shut up a child of 6" on her blackberry! We never know.

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  9. To be honest, I've never seen parents ignoring kids, because of technology. Maybe it's because most of the people here are still quite old fashioned :D I think it's incredibly sad though, to see a little kid striving for attention and being neglected. After all, why the heck would you have a kid, if you're going to ignore him constantly!

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  10. Clap clap for presenting another side of the technology issue! Most people nowadays that it's actually ONLY the kids who are doing the ignoring thing-o.

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  11. I agree. It is easy to put your phone down even for a minute to listen what your child has to say! Nice to hear the other side!

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  12. got here through jhanz. :) nway, even before smartphones and tablets made it this big, i've always had issues with people that are physically present but too busy doing something else. i've always hated going out with a friend who's too occupied texting. that's just soo annoying. and the case you pointed out is even worse because that's a child the parent is ignoring, and we all now how vulnerable a child can be. that's just saadd. i think it's high time that the government, telcos and phone companies raise awareness. although i doubt.

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  13. Nice write up. We term this habit of using gadgets all the time as a addiction. It's like a drug. People used to get sooo addicted to it.

    But the point is theirv mind is always connected to some activities and it's in an engaged mode. Do you know the proverb ' an empty mind is a Devils work shop ' . So I hope it's still better than doing nothing. But when we are in a heard or a group. We should keep it or pockets.

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  14. It's so true. It goes both ways. So that's why when I get kids, I'm going to make sure to talk and text them all the time.

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  15. Wise post.
    Technology do come with a bucket full of downfalls, be it children or grown up, we're caught pretty bad. People close should be treated close. Talking in person is a waste to people, the sheer pleasure of being updated about some random pseudo-inspirational stuff is all hep. Oh well, I don't get the point.

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  16. You're SO right. I never thought about it that way round, I always just thought of it as younger people who are always on their phones! Love your blog, but for some reason Blogger is being a bit menstrual and not letting me follow people - awkward! :/ keep being fab!! Tegan xo

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  18. I think everyone must introspect. In days to come, the little girl will grow up and behave exactly how her mother is behaving now. The tables will probably turn then. Its a sad situation. Lovely blog you have there though. x :)

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  19. I absolutely agree. No phone/work/job will ever be as important as the child sitting in front of you; furthermore, no one will ever love you as much as they do.
    Beautiful post, I'm looking forward to reading more!
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