Sunday, March 2, 2014

Parents & Technology.

It is generally assumed that kids are too busy with their hand-phones and iPads to communicate with their parents. In movies and TV shows, we always see young children and snobby teens ignoring their parents while tapping away on their gadgets. Kids who constantly use their phones are seen as rude and spoiled. While I do agree with the fact that our generation relies highly on technology to pass our time, there is another similar situation which isn't given nearly as much attention. I encountered something weird the other day which made me want to write this post.

A mother and her daughter were sitting at the table beside me in a restaurant. The little girl looked to be around 6 years old. She was talking very enthusiastically but the mother was just blatantly ignoring her while using her Blackberry. She barely said five words to the girl throughout the whole meal. It was painful to watch. Since then I've been noticing this situation more, I guess it happens a lot but I never thought about it.

I think it's really sad that kids these days have to compete with technology for their parents' attention.

I'm not ignoring the fact the parents may actually be working through their phones, answering emails etc. But the point is that at least when sitting in a restaurant with your child, you should put it away, or at least tell them to wait a second instead of letting them blabber on pointlessly. If a child grows up in an environment where he/she feel like they're not being heard, they'll grow up feeling like their thoughts are not important. And this in turn will lessen their self-esteem.

I'm not a parent so I can't empathise with the situation, all I can do is comment on what I feel is wrong. Technology can be very distracting and it IS an essential part of our lives, but taking time out to listen to your kids is just as important.


Would love to hear your views on this :)