Saturday, August 24, 2013

Guest Post by Ovellia: You're Already Beautiful

She has the best grades. The best friends. The best looks. All the boys wanted her and what's more, she has such a sparkling personality and she's the best violinist in school. She's not perfect, but close to it.

Oh well, at least I'm far better than her in basketball. Hah!

Have you ever felt this way? Felt happy about other people's flaws? What's more, have you ever compared yourself to others to feel good about yourself?

You know, it doesn't have to be that way to feel good and beautiful about yourself.

Because you are already beautiful.

You may not be blessed with the gift of music like that student, but you may be blessed with the gift of dancing. You may excel in painting but be an average athelete, and another girl/boy may excel in the latter.

We're all unique and blessed with different gifts. If we compare ourselves to others, especially someone we grudgingly admire, it might make us feel good for a while because it may give us the arrogant feeling I'm in the same level as him/her. However, after a while, you'll just feel inferior to that person because you're constantly checking that you're still like him/her. You start to feel worried. Is my hairstyle better than hers today? Did I beat him in that test? You don't realize that you're beginning to feel bad about yourself.

Some of you might say that comparison is good-it encourages self-improvement in a competitive way. Also it gives you a standard in the form of a person that you can work towards to. Yes, they're true. But comparison won't work well for too long until it destroys your self-esteem.

It is true that although we are gifted in different ways it doesn't hurt to strive to be well-rounded. However, to excel in what we want, you've got to do it at your own pace. For example, if you want to excel in basketball, you have to excercise according to your own strength and ability. Don't just straight away do that 1000 push ups that kid does in one sitting. Maybe he had more practice and was talented in sports.

As for the argument that having a person acting as your standard is good, well, a person can change from good to bad, and you definitely don't want to follow the bad her/him. You know what's good for you. You know what you want. So decide your own standards. Don't copy others.

You're beautiful and talented and should feel good about yourself. But still,don't forget there's room for improvement!

Have a nice day!

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Thanks to Ovellia for this wonderful guest post :)
Check out her blog: Chinese Violin Diary

13 comments:

  1. Lovely post! I agree, we may lack in some areas but make up nicely for it in others. I have zero ability when it comes to sports, but I love to write and that's where I feel I can excel.

    Everyone has beauty inside them, it takes intelligence to figure out what makes them beautiful :D

    Being original, and being yourself, is the best thing to do!

    p.s. Ovellia is SUCH a pretty name!

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    1. Glad you enjoyed the post, Furree Kat!And thanks!

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  2. Thanks for posting the post, PurpleMist! :D

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  3. This is a really really really cute post :) The comparison thing is definitely something I'm familiar with, especially when I'm trying not to do it, but the parents - the PARENTS - keep bringing it up. Have you heard this before:

    "But SO-AND-SO's daughter/son got THIS GRADE, and they stay THISMANY hours EVERY NIGHT studying... so why can't YOU?"

    -_-'

    But this post? So well said. Keep it up ^_^ And I second Furree on the prettiness of your name :)

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    1. Thanks Laila :D. And yeah, sometimes people compare us but you know, so what :)

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  4. What a heartwarming post! Thanks for the great read, it made me feel better about myself already! :D

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  5. Ironic that I should read this post after making a post about a 5 eyar reunion.

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  7. very nice post. :-) we compare because we just can't help it. sometimes it's healthy, yes, but when it develops to feelings that turns into insecurity, we should reconsider...

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    1. Yes. There was a time when I compared myself to others to judge my self-worth. But comparing yourself to others is destructive. Because of comparing, I really suffered from bad self-esteem. The thing is we have a tendency to focus on our flaws and their strengths while comparing.

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